Massage can be a lot of fun and very sensual. When you are learning to massage, the first thing to learn is anatomy. It is very important to know the muscle structure, which directions they go, where the larger muscles are located, and where they are connected. This is important so you do not cause harm to your partner. It is also important not to apply too much pressure causing muscle bruising or soreness. Be attentive and use only massage techniques that you have trained for. Using forms of massage such as Reiki, heat or a deep massage therapy is dangerous in incompetent or untrained hands.
Your hands will be in constant contact with your partner during a massage, so be sure your nails are trimmed and filed so there are no rough edges to nick or scratch your partner. Make sure any rough spots on your hands are softened before massage by washing your hands with very hot water, this also makes sure your hands are warm enough to begin the massage. If there is a time span between the time you wash your hands before a massage and beginning place your hands under your upper arms and press down to ensure they receive your own body warmth. When beginning massage always use warmed oil or massage lotion.
Due to allergic reactions of some perfumes, pure almond oil-based body oils or lotions are the best to use and almond oil is an excellent balm and conditioner for the skin. The one natural additive that you might wish to put into your oil or lotion is vitamin ‘E’ which conditions the skin and makes it soft. If you are sure your partner does not have allergies add a fragrance to the base lotion or oil. Two excellent stores to purchase natural massage oil that is not outrageously priced are The Body Shop™ or Botanical Gardens ™.
When massaging, always use warmed oil. Even in hot weather the oil might not be at body temperature. There are three ways of warming the oil. One way is to put some oil in your hands and rub them together and the oil will quickly warm to body temperature. The second is to heat the oil in a hot water bath. To do this you place the oil container in a pan of almost boiling water and let it sit until it is warm. The third way of heating oil or lotion is by candle and is by far the most sensuous of methods. To accomplish this, have the oil or lotion in a glass canister. Hold the canister over a lit candle and slowly turn the canister in your hand. You will need to watch the oil or lotion carefully so it does not become too hot or will burn the skin when applying. It is always a good idea to test the oil or lotion before use by placing a small amount in the palm before applying to the skin. You should also never pour the oil directly onto your partner’s body, but always place a small amount in the palm before applying it to the skin.
Massage can be a very sensual experience. With both partners unclothed, you straddle the buttocks, facing their head to do the upper body. Then turn and face their feet to do the feet and legs. Of course you can wiggle a bit, having a bit of fun while administering to your Dominant, either to her back or front. Another position for massage is for the submissive to stand or to kneel by his Domme on a table. Another position when giving a head massage (and I do mean head as in cranium), is to cradle their head on your crossed legs working from the face to neck to upper skull. This is very sensual and when you become aroused, your partner will definitely be able to tell.
Mood music is a good thing to have playing in the background while giving a massage, something soft relaxing and sensual. If incense does not bother allergies, then burning it also helps set a relaxing and sensuous mood. Do not, however, use incense that is smoky or does not compliment the scent of the oil or lotion you are using. When doing massages make sure you have plenty of non-alcoholic liquids on hand to circumvent dehydration. Dehydration happens more to the person giving the massage than the person getting it unless they perspire a lot.
Massage in the direction of the muscle, not side to side. Small, soft, circular motions are acceptable if you do not apply pressure. Using fingertips works as well as using the palm of your hand. This gives you better control in hard-to-reach and strained areas. Keep your massage strokes rhythmic and at the same speed and never break body contact with your partner. Before beginning a massage, make sure all your supplies are handy and in arm’s reach: drinking water, towels, oil, and extra pillows. Be attentive to your partner by watching for signs of pleasure or discomfort and listen for sounds that will tell you they are pleased. At times be sure to ask for feedback on stroke and pressure, especially at those times when you can not read your partner’s body language. When you do begin to massage do so lightly either up or down the torso. When massaging the legs commence at the ankle and massage upward to the calf and then up the thigh.
When massaging the feet begin massaging beneath the ball of the foot and massage upward to the heel. Remember those cute toes; they need comfort just as much as the rest of the feet and body. When massaging the hand commence with the fingers, then the palm working your way to the wrist. Remember to pay close attention to the navicular area pad under the thumb. This is where cramping of the hands can happen. Arms get massaged from the wrists up.
The mood has been set with candles, incense, music and just perhaps, nudity. You have unplugged the phone and turned off the computer and television. You have made sure there are no drafts in the chosen spot and the room temperature is at least 70 degrees. Your body language and voice is that of softness and sensuality, which helps to set the mood. When massaging the front of your partner it is important to add a bit of soft movement to the pelvic area. Have on your face a glowing soft smile of sensuality. The running of a fingernail on each side of the spine or down the chest is also very sensual.
Now my personal all time favorite sensual massage is the use of the body to massage. This is accomplished by first applying a generous amount of oil on your partner’s body. After caressing their body with your hands, softly lie on top of them. While still using your hands, begin to move your body on top of them sensuously to massage. It is hard to put into words, but you move up and down and sideways over your partner’s body using a gyrating motion. Little mewing sounds also help the sensual atmosphere of a body-to-body message. When doing this form of massage on your partner’s legs, bring your legs up and down the inner thigh to the crotch area. The use of the knee here works wonders, using just a little pressure with some motion and then back down and up again.
Perhaps by this time the massage would be forgotten and other sensuous play would begin. Because you have used a pure massage oil or lotion you are also going to be well lubricated. A body to body massage can be done either on front or back of your partner. On a frontal body-to-body massage you can add kissing and licking to the routine also. Little nibbles to the nipples as you slink down your partner’s body or a light rotating knee or foot to the groin area are also a nice touches. After you have accomplished a body to body message I do not think you will be doing much questioning of its merits for sensuality or the arousal of both partners involved. Remember, the goal here is to have fun, create intimacy, and promote relaxation for both partners.