How often should you allow your submissive to have an orgasm?
The easy answer is, AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE.
(Yes, this is my husbands penis and it looks like this pretty much every day of the year)
My rule of thumb is, “around three weeks”. I would take a guess that most experienced Dommes would agree that there isn’t a reason for any man to have orgasms more frequently than that. Most men start bouncing off the walls around the seven day mark and start dry humping pillows at the ten day mark.
The reason I said, “around three weeks” is, I NEVER have a set schedule. Part of the fun is, I never keep track of how long its been! I will ask my husband and he will reply, Its been, 17 days, 6 hours, 42 minutes and 8 seconds! He knows precisely how long its been. We have a rule in place that he is required to tell me, on the evening of the 21st day, that its been three weeks since his last orgasm.
This is just so I am made aware of how long its been, BUT I am under NO obligation to address it. The rule also states he needs to notify me every week thereafter. Most of the time I will permit him an orgasm sometime after the three week mark, but there are plenty of months he has been extended to six weeks and once, I made him wait nine weeks. The most important thing about orgasm control is that you are completely UNPREDICTABLE. Never set a schedule! His brain will go bonkers because he will have no idea if today is the day!
This doesn’t mean you’re not going to have sexual activities together. Honestly, the two of you will probably end up being intimate more than you ever had before. The difference is, his orgasm will RARELY be part of it.
Take your time with Orgasm Denial. If you are just starting and you have a husband who masturbates once a day, dial him back to once every three or four days. A couple weeks later, move it to once a week. After he gets adjusted to once a week, push it back to ten days, then two weeks, then three and then four. By the time he has worked up to a month, his body will be better adjusted to the shock to his system. Once he can consistently handle a month, he can go longer without an issue.
Remember ladies, THERE IS NO REASON your man should be having more than one orgasm, every three weeks! Otherwise you are doing yourself a disservice.
Be prepared, if you haven’t been around a man who doesn’t get to orgasm frequently, you are in for a little surprise (take a look at my husband’s penis above). They will CONSTANTLY be dripping semen EVERYWHERE. I mean EVERYWHERE. On your sheets, on their pants, on the toilet seat. This is the body’s way of slowly getting rid of excess semen. A constantly leaking penis and Female Led Relationships go to together like ice cream and apple pie. (if you not having ice cream with apple pie you’re missing out!) The great part of a constantly leaking penis is, it does nothing for their level of horniness!